Yet another friend mentioned it: the Dinosaur in the Room.
“We’re barely making ends meet. There is so much suffering in the world. How are we ever going to make the world we want, solve society’s problems, and get power from those who seem to rule everything so destructively?”
I smiled that smile you smile when you are embarrassed because you don’t have the answer to a very important question. Finally, just to break the silence, I said, “We’re all doing our best…”
And that was the end of it.
Except, I couldn’t stop thinking about our conversation–which echoed so many similar conversations as well as my own thoughts–or his depressed energy. He might as well have said, “We’re never going to escape this concentration camp!” for all the hope I heard in his voice.
How are we going to escape?
I stewed on it for days. I couldn’t let it go. And I prayed.
“There has to be an answer. Help me find it.”
It became an inner battle. I pushed and pondered and focused and struggled and wrestled and fought…I knew there was some solution wanting to come out.
After days of this, the battle ended.
The smoke cleared.
It was obvious.
Let me lead you through the path to The Answer if I may.
How much money do you give to people and causes you do not support or like?
Taxes? Rent? Mortgages? Bills? Repairs? Insurance?
The list goes on and on.
Things we have to pay.
Places where we have no choice.
How does that feel?
Now, how much money do you give to people and causes you admire, appreciate, and love?
When you do that, how does that feel?
If you are like me, most of your money has gone to things and organizations you weren’t happy about supporting–just to stay alive.
I have even contemplated dropping out of society to ‘get away from it all’.
But giving up money has costs as well. Life would be much harder. Where do I get food? Where do I live? I wouldn’t be with the people I love. I couldn’t do many things I really wanted to do.
Worst of all: I couldn’t help make this a better world for myself or anyone else. I couldn’t see how quitting would change anything.
That couldn’t be the solution.
So, what was?
To take control and use the power I had to steadily raise the percentage of money I spend and give to people and causes I admire, appreciate, and love.
One day I was reading a brilliant article by a brilliant person whom I really admired. I thought, “Wow. They did this so well. This really helped me. I wish I could thank them in some way.”
And then I thought, “What would I want, if I were them?”
I would appreciate some token of gratitude. And I would be happy with money.
So, I asked them, “How can I pay you?”
They sent a link.
I sent $5.
Something powerful moved in me. Something awoke. I felt good.
$5 wasn’t a huge amount of money. But it allowed me to take some of what I had and use my power to actually make a physical difference to someone who had touched and improved my life through their work.
I didn’t even explain why I had sent the money. And they never asked. They just said ‘thank you!’ And that was fine.
It felt like I had expressed myself and my feelings in a tangible way. I felt like I had exercised real power. I felt like I had chipped a little chunk off of a system that kept sucking so much life energy from me and all of us.
So, let me ask you this:
- What percentage of your income goes to places, people, and things you wish you didn’t have to support?
- And what percentage are you joyful and happy to give, spend, and pay?
- How would it feel to continually increase the amount and percentage you were spending in the second category?
That would feel awesome, wouldn’t it?
Allow me to introduce you to the Admiration Economy.
The Admiration Economy works like this:
When someone does something you admire or appreciate, no matter large or small, you find a way to give them money, in return.
- Perhaps they inspired you.
- Or they comforted you.
- Or they helped you.
- Or maybe they just listened.
- Or, maybe they are doing something that inspires you, such as working on a cause you feel strongly about.
I know it might seem strange at first, but this is a major secret for gaining power in the world we live in.
If you look at the ‘top’ of society, there are many people making money for each other. We look up and call it nepotism or corruption. But that ‘mutual benefit’ is a big part of what keeps the machine going.
Do we want to have that power? Then we must start helping each other and sharing so that we can give each other more and more money. Eventually, the part of the world that supports things we don’t like will shrink and the part we enjoy will grow.
Try it on. See how it feels.
Here’s the secret that has been hidden from us:
- We do have power.
- We can change things.
- And, to do so, we must first realize that and use the power we have.
Consciously deciding to take part in the Admiration Economy allows that to happen.
And, yes, we can also receive that way.
But where you can start now is to give. To anyone you want to give to.
Try it. See what happens.
Let’s take our power back and change the world!
Q: Does it matter how much I give?
A: Because you are doing this of your own free will (not because of an agreement), don’t worry about it being somehow ‘not enough’. Even a dollar is a fantastic start. As you become used to it and gain more confidence (and begin receiving more), you can contribute more.
Q: Will I get more money as a result of this?
A: Every time I have practiced this principle, I have been rewarded far beyond what I have ever given.
Q: I’m embarrassed. How do I explain this?
A: Don’t be. Just say you wanted to give a gift or you admired them or their work or you are grateful. You don’t own them an explanation! 🙂
Q: I gave, but they weren’t as grateful as I had hoped.
A: The results for you and the world are not dependent on the other person. Concentrate on using your power and how that feels.
Q: I don’t know how to send money easily. How do I?
A: You can now send money with a debit card to anyone who has a Facebook account! Just use the dollar sign at the bottom of the chat window. Also, PayPal works great. You could even stick a dollar in an envelope and mail it! If in doubt, ask the receiver what would work for them.
Q: I’m afraid if I do this, I won’t have enough?
A: This is where this becomes a spiritual exercise and practice. You can start small. You can also feel into your deepest truth or connection with the Divine to find out if this is a good idea for you or how much to give to whom. When we give, somehow we realize our abundance even more. And miracles stream from giving, no matter whether money, time, energy or anything else given in love.