Dear Energetically Gifted, Empathic, and/or Highly Sensitive Millennial,
I get where you come from. I hear the stories over and over. Life has been tough. Very tough. You might have been born into a tough family. You might have had serious abuse there.
Even if that wasn’t the case, you were not understood by your family or peer group. You hung around older people. You had weird interests.
Often, what you saw, heard, felt, did–who you were–instead of garnering praise, got you punished. Talk about a onslaught to your abilities!
Talk about dishonor for your gifts! Insult to your very being.
I’m sorry. They didn’t know what to do with you.
The truth is: you are different. You feel things no one else seems to. You sense and know things others don’t. You don’t fit in.
I get it. I’ve been there.
I know the rage that comes from not being understood–both how I feel and what I think. And how that seeming disregard for who I am made me wonder which of us had to disappear–the others or me–for me to be happy.
It’s no joyful place to be. The frustration, pain, and sadness can be overwhelming.
Whether people are telling us that we are special or weird, they just don’t seem to get it.
The temptation is there to reject ‘the old ways’–your family, their traditions…that life and world that hasn’t treated you how you obviously deserve to be treated.
You feel like an alien. Like you’re in the wrong place. Like you just don’t belong and never could.
The good news is, you aren’t in the wrong place. You are not just in the right place, you are in the perfect place. The world is still catching up to you, however. And that’s happening faster all the time.
In fact, you will fashion the world to be as you see it could be.
But that will be no simple journey.
Your challenges and difficulties are there precisely to teach you things that you could not have learned any other way. To strengthen you in ways that nothing else could have. Someday, you can feel as much gratitude for them as you might rage and devastation now.
Yes. You are wise. Yes. You are powerful. Yes, you have been misunderstood.
But you are not alone. Not totally.
Although your generation may have more seers and prophets/esses, more miraculous and magical people, we have always been there.
Many of us were once at the age you are now. It’s true: some of us abandoned our gifts and hid them out of self-preservation. But some of us also have accepted and began to apply them to bless others and enjoy who we are.
I remember having my first transcendent experience. In that moment, I knew everything. Any question I asked was answered. I felt invincible.
I knew I was complete in myself and didn’t need anything or anyone else.
And yet, I was still in a world of people. I wanted to go live on a mountain top. But my deepest truth told me not to withdraw.
I lived in the world and ‘plied my trade’–vowing never again to waste my time or valuable life energy doing things I didn’t want to do for the illogical and destructive monster that so much of society had become for me.
After struggling along for awhile in my newfound ‘omniscience’, there were nagging issues in my life that I still couldn’t seem to resolve–my health, my challenging relationships, and my finances. I finally had to admit: knowing ‘everything’ is sometimes not enough.
There were many questions I didn’t even know to ask in order to exist in this world and enjoy it as I believed I could and should.
And so I did something that is quite challenging for someone who feels they know everything.
I asked for help.
I began receiving coaching, mentoring and support from my elders, those more practiced than I was, and those who just plain had experience in things I did not. Both about the topics at hand and also in how to be in this world.
And, I was surprised about how much I wasn’t seeing…how much I benefited from that support. And how much psychological work was still to be done, on top of all the spiritual work I had been dedicated to for over a decade.
Sometimes, when I see someone like you, I think of me then: seeing and feeling so much and yet feeling so undervalued, unappreciated, unaccepted, and even helpless.
And then I wish I could tell you what I wish I had known back then.
What do I wish I knew?
- I needed someone who could see and feel me just as much as I feel and saw everyone else.
Despite my empathic gifts, I was out of touch with my own feelings. They didn’t feel welcome growing up, so I had buried and lost them. I needed someone like me to help me see and identify what I was feeling, tell me what I was thinking was ok, and help me develop my gifts. My psyche and relating had to catch up with my energetic and spiritual.
- I’m perfect just the way I am. There is nothing ‘wrong’ with how I was created or what I want and need. For this reason, I don’t need to hide myself or be ashamed.
- I’m an important piece to the puzzle of this world.
I’m not an ‘alien’. There is space for me here. Not only can I be tolerated, but my gifts are powerfully needed in this world. It may take us a little more time and effort than most people to find where we fit in and how we can contribute–and have that contribution be valued–but it is there, and we are important and valuable to others.
- Many things do take time. Be patient.
I was used to straight A’s without any studying. But there never seemed to be anyone who had time enough or interest enough to listen to all I had to say.
I felt pressure. I rushed. I needed to hurry.
But, even when I rushed, some things I couldn’t learn or perfect in an evening, a weekend, or even a month.
I had to go back to those things I hurried through over and over and over again and put in the time, practice, and effort to really understand and perfect them.
This included virtually my entire childhood.
Along the way, I learned that there is enough time.
I have dreamed about the perfect Professor X School for Gifted Young People. Some of us are working on it.
In the mean time, know that:
- You are not alone.
- Many are willing to support you.
- There are many who get you–much better than you may have ever experienced.
- There is enough time. We don’t need to rush.
You have massive skills and abilities. The greater they are, the longer they may take to practice. To hone. To perfect. And to be able to present in a way that the world can accept and you can benefit from them as well.
I’m happy you are here. We need you. Never give up. Keep going. It will get better. You will get through it. Look for people who can help you and you will find them.
We are changing things and it is awesometastic.
Greatest blessings be with you on your journey.